|Grieving The Loss of a Pet|
On this page you will find subjects relating to grieving a pet, bereavement of a pet, handling the loss of a pet, grief support, dealing with the loss of a pet, dealing with grief, coping with the loss of a pet, grieving the death of a pet, even such effects as depression following the loss of a pet. No matter what term you use, it all comes down to the devastating effects that loosing a pet can have on your life in general and how you can handle it.
When you step onto this page, you completely leave the realm of veterinary medicine and I step aside as a veterinarian and step in at a completely different level. Apart from being a veterinarian, I am also a trained Life Coach and a trained Dianetics counselor. As such, I do not act as your veterinarian and step into a completely different relationship.
Now you have lost a pet or are about to loose one. What can you do to recover? Different people have different responses to such a loss. No one can deny the human animal bond that can exist and how heart wrenching it can be to experience that kind of a loss. As an individual, everyone has their own life force and this life force can be affected to a greater or lesser degree when a loss is experienced. By life force, I mean your urge towards survival, your ability to enjoy life, to reach happiness, to surmount difficulties, to create your tomorrow, achieve your goals and many other things.
Have you ever noticed how some people seem to be able to take unbelievable blows from life and still seem to be able to rebuild their lives, their fortune, their families and keep their cheerfulness and optimism through thick and thin? Some other people have a much more difficult time and fall back at what may seem like a minor failure or loss. You may find yourself in one of these two extremes or somewhere in between. There is an infinity of degrees and quality of life force because we are all individuals. Each individual is special and valuable no matter his or her endowment of life force.
No matter where you fit in the gradient of endowment of life force, when it comes to the loss of a pet, I think that anybody can find themselves baffled at the enormity of the loss they may feel.
If you find yourself grieving to a greater or lesser degree after the loss of your pet and you come out of it a short time later and feel ready to move forward, that is great!!! Some philosophies would have you introvert and figure-figure on what is wrong with you and tell you that you are in denial, at some other stage of the grief process or whatever they may say... I happen to disagree with this viewpoint. If you feel fine and life has not lost its zest and you are able to move on, there is nothing wrong with you, my friend! You don't HAVE to go to a particular pre-determined grief process. Look up, life is ahead, splurge on it!
However, a lot of people need a helping hand at a time like this and the loss of a pet can be experienced at a much deeper level no matter how much life force endowment you may have and time may not be what it takes to heal. Time may burry and hide the loss and it may not be in plain view to you on a daily basis, but it does not heal.
Past losses of a seemingly very different nature than the loss of a pet can get reactivated unconsciously at a time like this and it is very difficult if not impossible for someone to sit and try to figure out on their own what past loss may have gotten reactivated or why they feel so bad. In any case, it is a very bad idea to try to figure it all out on your own and may get you even sadder and more upset.
There are some valid forms of help; some other pretended forms of help will get you in more trouble than you bargained for and will invalidate, evaluate, tell you how you should feel and what you should think, may even suggest that you need drugs and will leave you feeling introverted, uncertain and even more lost than you were before you sought the help.
I can also personally help you overcome your loss. There are two very different approaches I have been trained in that will help you move forward. One concentrates on alleviating the PAST; the other one ignores the past and concentrates on the future.
Alleviating the past
I am a trained Dianetics counselor. This technique will help you alleviate the pain of the past losses and injuries you may have suffered. As part of this aspect, you can also receive ASSISTS. An assist is defined as: a process which is done to alleviate a present time discomfort.
If you would like to learn more about what Dianetics counseling is, please go to: http://www.dianetics.net/#/videos
Dianetics is done one on one and face to face. It cannot be done over the phone.
Moving into the future: Life Coaching
Coaching is defined as: Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.
Life coaching does not deal with the past. As a Life Coach, I will help you define your goals and achieve them. Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives.
Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach's job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.
Coaching is forward moving and future focused. Therapy, on the other hand, deals with healing painful experiences and conflicts within an individual or a relationship between two or more individuals.
I am a life coach. I help people reach their goals and lead the life they want to lead.
Life coaching does not deal with the past. It is a technology that helps people look ahead and make changes in their lives. It is for people who WANT to make changes, who beleive in the attainment of happiness and who just need a helping hand to guide in the right direction.
As a life coach, I will help you sort out what is a priority in your life and what will make a difference.
I do not evaluate, invalidate, tell you what to think or tell you what to do. I respect all religious beliefs and do not deal in religious matters. I am the encourager, the gentle guide, the attentive ear. With the tools of communication, I will help you sort things out for yourself and may, at times, take the role of a consultant, giving you tools that will lead to workable solutions for life problems.
Ready to get some help?
If you would like to sign up for Dianetics Counseling or for Life Coaching with me, please contact me:
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Here are some links to some valid forms of help that will not take you down the path of drugs, invalidation or evaluation. On these links, you will find self help books and articles that will lead you to an understanding of what occurs when someone experiences a loss and how you can recover from it: